Opinion: An Open Letter to the Family and Friends of Nick Hein

Dear Friends and Family of Nick Hein,

I would like to address some of the heartless and critical words which were made by people who are the minority within Kings Park.  Most people here in our town are heartbroken by both the loss of such a young life and the ugliness you and your families were exposed to. I heard many in our town express their shock that anyone would offer comments that were anything but caring and compassionate.

Your loss is our loss as a community. Anytime a family in Kings Park is hurting the hurt is felt by all.  Having lived in this town my whole life I have witnessed many tragedies that have befallen families.  When such tragedies hit, the community rallies - to bring food to those without, clothes and money to those who are in need, prayers for those who are hurting. This is not a necessarily religiously motivated response but rather a human response by people who genuinely care for each other.

Dr. Agruso's decision to open the high school so that you might be together is an example of compassion and care that represents how we respond to tragedy here in Kings Park.  Various churches and community groups have opened their doors, offering counseling for those in need. When you gathered for your candlelight vigil, those who passed were most probably saying a prayer for your friend and you.  

Please know that I, and most others here in Kings Park, will continue to pray and keep you and the Hein family in our thoughts.  Your community recognizes and grieves your loss and hopes that you find some peace.

“Compassion is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival.”..The Dalai Lama

Sincerely,

Denise Creighton