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Opinion: An Open Letter to the Family and Friends of Nick Hein

Compassion should reign, and mostly does, following tragic death of the local teenager.

Dear Friends and Family of Nick Hein,

I would like to address some of the heartless and critical words which were made by people who are the minority within Kings Park.  Most people here in our town are heartbroken by both the loss of such a young life and the ugliness you and your families were exposed to. I heard many in our town express their shock that anyone would offer comments that were anything but caring and compassionate.

Your loss is our loss as a community. Anytime a family in Kings Park is hurting the hurt is felt by all.  Having lived in this town my whole life I have witnessed many tragedies that have befallen families.  When such tragedies hit, the community rallies - to bring food to those without, clothes and money to those who are in need, prayers for those who are hurting. This is not a necessarily religiously motivated response but rather a human response by people who genuinely care for each other.

Dr. Agruso's decision to open the high school so that you might be together is an example of compassion and care that represents how we respond to tragedy here in Kings Park.  Various churches and community groups have opened their doors, offering counseling for those in need. When you gathered for your candlelight vigil, those who passed were most probably saying a prayer for your friend and you.  

Please know that I, and most others here in Kings Park, will continue to pray and keep you and the Hein family in our thoughts.  Your community recognizes and grieves your loss and hopes that you find some peace.

“Compassion is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival.”..The Dalai Lama


Denise Creighton

Karen Cannone January 11, 2012 at 04:06 PM
Yes, be grateful you missed reading the comments. I was amazed by them. Thank you Mrs. Creighton for your comments. They were spot on. Both families have suffered a tremendous loss and my thoughts and prayers go out to both families.
Frank Mercuri January 11, 2012 at 04:27 PM
Well said Denise, The loss of Nicholas was a shock to all of us at Father Seyfried Council Knights of Columbus in KP. The name Hein rang a bell of a Hein who was one of our Past grand Knights. But found that there was no relation. But the shock was to find that Nicholas was the grand son of a Brother knight and dear friend, our past Financial Secretary Don Jarka who past away three years ago. He would come to my house and talk after he did his baby sitting. Our sympathy goes to Marge Jarka and to the family who lost so much so soon. Ugliness in commentary is a sign of being uncaring thinking the coment is an intellectual answer to a tradgey. This tradgedy brought to mind one our family had been faced with when my son had overturned his car some years ago not to far away on Old Ommack road 100 feet from the RR tracks. Thank God he was not injured seriously It is not easy when a call is made regarding a child's accident. Who is at fault rests with God to make that determination not some heartless childish commentors. My prayers not only go to the Hein family but also all who were victims of this tragedy. Denise said it well we are a community who cares for its neighbors because Kings Parkers are family. Let's also pray to those commentors that one day they will grow up and write with compassion rather than venom.
Frank Mercuri January 11, 2012 at 04:56 PM
As a Post Script, I would like to add my admiration of our youth. The hundreds who turened out to pay their respects to a friend and his family is a sign that our youth will grow to be the good citizens of Kings Park. They cared and shared. The school district showed compassion by putting aside daily business and allowing the students to pay their last respects.
Donna D January 11, 2012 at 11:25 PM
My heart and prayers are with the family. Only time will somehow ease the pain. Our family lost Ray Ray not so long ago and unless you walk in those shoes you cannot comprehend the lost. There should be no blame but only prayers for both families who are suffering so very much now.
Peggy Gilmartin January 12, 2012 at 03:41 AM
Well said Denise....I was sickened by some of the venomous comments. Today's mass was a beautiful tribute to Nick. The class of 2012 should be proud of themselves for the outpouring of love and respect they shared with Nick's family. My nephew was a pallbearer, and I admire him and his friends for their strength during this difficult time in their life. The KP Community came out in full force for one of their own. The family was overwhelmed by the support....neighbors and friends preparing her house for guests, deliveries of food, drinks, ice, flowers, fruit baskets, monetary donations, and more. I am proud to be a part of this community, and I will continue to pray for Nick's family just as all of KP will do.


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